Euphoric Reality posted a reminder today of what it really means to support the troops. The sentiments expressed are valid, support goes way beyond a magnetic ribbon, but even if most Americans barely think of the sacrifices made by men and women in uniform and their families and communities, I can't say I feel shortchanged.
Being a part of the military community, if you embrace it, is life altering. I didn't realize that when I grew up a retiree's kid in a town full of Rambo wannabes. In those days, I only saw the down side. Too many 18 year olds with paychecks wasted on camaros and beer. I'd never marry a soldier.
When I moved home after a few years in college and 18 months abroad, I met and immediately fell in love with the most thoughtful, gentle and loving man, a new congregant at my home church. Imagine my shock when I saw him in olive drab for the first time. He'd already served for 8 years and was a young captain. He was educated, well-spoken and committed to serving. The boots and BDUs represented more to him than I could have even conceived of back then. I'll never forget the first time I called his house. His answering machine announced that he couldn't pick up because he was fighting godless hordes and making the world safe to democracy. A Sousa march played in the background. I'd entered the Twilight Zone.
As we dated, I became acquainted with another side of Army life. The kind you can only see from the inside. The loyalty, the friendship, the dedication, the sacrifice, the honor, the respect. In the years since then, and in spite of my routine complaining about long hours and deployments, I fell in love many times over, with him and with his patriotic cause.
He and his buddies laugh that no one is a more ardent supporter of the military than a soldier's wife. We keeper's of the home fires do get overzealous, I'll admit, but when the cause is just and you have so much riding on success, simpering in fear is a luxury you can ill afford.
So sit in Starbucks, read your paper, sip your coffee and feign support. It won't bother me. The dim light cast by your unappreciative American affluence will never cast the same brilliance and warmth as the mere memories of my association with dedicated men and women in uniform. When the determination to see all men free burns like a flame in your breast, you hardly notice the self-absorbed shadow dwellers even if they do benefit from the fire you helped to build.